Instead of “single & fabulous,” the life of a single woman in her mid 20’s and beyond is all too often labelled “single & desperate.” Instead of being viewed as a choice, “single” seems to denote a lack of options. Everyone seems to want to meddle in the life of the woman who refuses to settle; setting her up on endless dates with guys she has no interest in, calling her “desperate” or “lonely” or “too picky,” or asking: What is wrong with her? I would like to propose that the question we should be asking is: What is right with her? The way I see it, the solitude and bravery and uncertain path of the modern-day single woman is something to be applauded as bold and courageous and unique and not labelled as sad or pathetic or weak. As single women,we have racked up countless hours celebrating the choices of our married counterparts – helping them shop for wedding dresses, stepping into an endless stream of bridesmaid’s dresses, and elbowing other women out of the way more times than we care to admit to try and catch that elusive bouquet; praying that maybe, just maybe, if we can reach out far enough, we might not just catch the bouquet, but also our own dreams of wearing that white dress to forever.
Times…they are most certainly changing, and with it, a new generation of “The Single Woman” is being raised up to march to the beat of her very own drummer…even if it is only in her underwear around her very own apartment, grooving to Beyonce’s Single Ladies . It’s not that I’m anti-marriage, Wei-yah noted. I just hope that I can express a different idea within the bounds of a tradition.
Love is a beautiful and wonderful and even sacred thing…but until it arrives, shouldn’t we give ourselves permission to THRIVE? I don’t know about you, but I LIKE being able to spend money on myself without asking anyone’s permission. I LIKE to take myself out on a weekly date and spend time in my own company. And while I’d love to eventually have someone join me on my journey, I refuse to stay grounded if they don’t. So I want to encourage you, my beautiful single ladies, to flip the script on your inner Single Woman and start to see yourselves for the truly brave, empowered, sassy women that you are. In the Single Woman Dictionary, RIP OUT the pages “Needy” & “Desperate,” because YOU ARE NEITHER.
Till my next Post.
Loads of hugs and kisses.
Maxy.
4 comments:
The way to go girl. We should enjoy our single state.
Babe this ur post is on point. I need to enjoy this phase of my life.
Maxy dear, I am so encourage by this post. Some single ladies actually don't thrive or dare do some things cos of tongues that would wag. I bliv ladies shld try and acheive things on their own and when the right man comes, they would be better off for it.
Yes I agree with you all. Thanks for stopping by.
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