Ladies you are worth the pursuit.

    Hi Sugs, I apologize for my longggggg break. I sincerely apologize. Please kindly bear with me. I had issues with my system. Thank God it has been fixed.

 I promise to be more consistent. Yes I Promise.

 

    There’s something I’m super frustrated with lately, observing myself and my friends and reading emails from ladies who write to me for advice…and that is this idea that women seem to have that we need to work our toenails off to make a relationship happen with a man. That we have to “put ourselves in the way” of these men, otherwise they won’t remember us. That WE have to go out of our way to orchestrate run-ins and initiate conversations and catch THEIR eye. And while we’re working our fingers to the bone simply to get in the man’s line of sight, the man is sitting back twiddling his thumbs and not lifting ONE finger to pursue us, get to know us, spend time with us, or in some cases, even acknowledge us. And why? To what end are we doing this? Is our dignity and self-respect really worth so little that we’re willing to trade it in for five minutes of recognition from a man who probably doesn’t deserve us anyway? NO. It has to stop, ladies. And I’m talking to myself here, too. We have to stop with the idea that we can force or manipulate a man into being with us or wanting to be with us. We shouldn’t have to. By forcing and manipulating and orchestrating and stressing and planning and going out of our way to get in his line of sight, we are saying to the world that WE are not worthy of HIS pursuit, attention, time, and effort. NO. Nothing meant to be will ever have to be forced. No man who is meant for us will ever have to be chased. No relationship that is meant to happen will require so much work. It just won’t! And it certainly won’t require us to check our self-worth at the door! Relax. Breathe. Trust. Let go. Be your amazing, rock star self, knowing in confidence that if a man is meant to be in your life, you simply being YOU will be all the encouragement he needs to want to get to know you and spend time with you. We are worth more than this, ladies. Yes, it’s important to open ourselves up to the idea of love and to engage and to be vulnerable and to let a man know when we are interested in him, but that’s enough. That’s it. Anything beyond that is sending the universe a message that you feel like you have to earn love. And love and affection worth having will never have to be EARNED.

Till My Next Post
Loads Of Hugs and Kisses
Maxy.

Overcoming Failure in Life: The Failure Checklist

Hi Peeps, I am sorry again for the long break. I have been so busy with life but I promise I will try as much as possible to blog more often. Thank you.


If things aren’t going so well, it’s a great time to look forward, plan out a path, and set some goals. It’s also a great time for reflection. I always like to look back  and ask myself; what went right, and what went wrong? While I like to focus on the successes, it’s also good to look at what went wrong. This simple reflection is helpful for overcoming failure in life.



Failure can offer great insight.
Failure can help us change direction
Unfortunately, admitting failure is usually painful. In so many cases, it’s easier to just move on, than to actually analyze the situation and learn from it. And here is one thing that I know for sure…
If we don’t learn from our mistakes, we are bound to repeat them.
So.. on this note I decided to come up with a failure checklist.
It works very simply…
You write down and describe the failure and then you answer four questions…
1. What can we learn from this?
2. How could we have done things differently?
3. Where do we go from here?
4. What does this make possible?
Actually taking a few minutes and writing down the answers can yield some amazing results. Putting things on paper allows our mind to consolidate thoughts and come up with solutions.
If you had some things that didn’t go so well , why not write them down and take a few minutes and go through the questions.
This simple exercise has given me greater clarity as I plan out my goals for 2015. 
It has given me some surprising answers to some tough issues. The act of actually writing them down has allowed me to visualize the problems and come up with solutions.

Till my Next Post.
Loads Of Hugs and Kisses
Maxy.

SUCCESS KEYS

Hi Ladies, I sincerely apologise for my long absence. It was due to circumstances beyond my control. I hope i was missed.

If u know me very well you would know that i am a voracious reader. I can read for Africa. Lol.
There are some authors whose books have changed my life dramatically. Bishop David Oyedepo is one of such authors. Don't get it twisted i dont attend Winners Chapel I am Staunch Catholic. His books and teachings has had so much positive impact in my life. Enough said i want to discuss some success keys that I learnt from him to you my beautiful ladies today.

These Keys when in place in your life will empower you to become an outstanding success on earth.

PURPOSE

Purpose is one of the dimensional powers for outstanding success. Everyone born into this world is seperated for something, seperated to a well defined purpose. Purpose is a secret for success. Purpose is power. It is the key to realization. Life without purpose equals pressures without reason. When life lacks purpose, it loses colour. Martin Luther King{jnr} is quoted to have said "if a man has no purpose for living, he is not fit to live".

Andrew Young an American diplomat said at a lecture, "For 18 years i eyed the United Nations seat as the united states representative. I didn't let it get off me until i saw it happen." That is what purpose does, it drives a man on. Until you are a goal setter, you never become a goal getter. a football match without a goal post is very frustrating, because the game will never be over. No one scores a goal without a goal post. To become a success therefore you have to set goals for yourself, you must set goal posts where you score your goals.

Many have gone through life without an identified purpose for living. All lifelong they live a trial and error life, not being able to tell what they are in the world for. But where there is no vision, the people perish {Prov. 29-18}

Purpose! Nothing distinguishes as purpose! You belong somewhere, Locate it!

PURSUIT

Purpose is of no value without pursuit. Pursuit is what gives purpose value. Pursuit is the relevant force that transforms your purpose into a reality.

In science, they say every object assumes a state of rest or uniform motion until a force is applied to it. Nothing works by itself, every working thing is made to work by some one. Likewise, when you dont pursue your purpose, you can't possess it.
Vision or purpose is not the end in itself. Its only a means to an end. knowing where you are going is the first step, the actual pursuit is what makes it a reality. Its not enough to get a goal set. goal setting is daydreaming when it lacks pursuit.
The colour of every purpose is determined by the tenacity of the pursuit involved. You belong somewhere. But you don't get there by wishing, you get there by working. What you don't pursue, never think to possess. No one succeeds by accident.
People don't believe in their purpose that is why they lack the energy for pursuit. If you believe in your purpose, you will give it what it takes to see it actualised.
The story was told of Isaac Newton. He was a great scientist who was so addicted to his research work. One day his wife set his food on the dining table, but the man was so engrossed in the laboratory that he didn't go out to eat. His wife later had to clear the table. When he finally remembered and went out to eat, he didn't meet any food on the table. All he said was , Oh i forgot i had eaten already."The man was so deep in his pursuit that he sometimes didn't remember to eat!
Success is not anywhere, it is in you and what you do with your purpose in life.When you don't pursue your purpose, it fizzles out. Pursue your job! Go after it! It wont work until you work it. Pursue your purpose, persist in its pursuit and you will possess your desire.
Say this prayer with me.... "Lord help me to understand the purpose for my living and energise me in the pursuit of the same. i dont want to roam about the earth as a waste. I am an asset to your kingdom. I am going to run. Everyone that obtained had to run. I am not going to wake up in the morning, and fold my hands, lying down in bed night and day, waiting and wishing for things to happen. I am created a runner, there is something on my inside that is able to occupy me till my time here on earth is over. I look up to you to be a successful runner."

PERSISTENCE

The act of tireless pursuit is what i call persistence. It is keeping at the pursuit of your purpose with patience. Nothing amounts to much without a consistent and persistent input. E.W Kenyon said, "A sculptor was asked, How did you come by this beautiful art work? How did you get this out of that wood? He replied, "I simply kept at it" Every precious thing takes its time.
Hit and run people never make the race. It is hit and stick that makes it. Some one gave a very powerful illustration which i love. He said when you strike a wall with a sledge hammer, it doesn't come down at the first strike. Perhaps it gives way at the 50th blow. But the 50th blow wasn't what actually brought the wall down. It was the cummulative effect of all the previous 49 blows. The 50th blow just happened to be the one that received the ovation.

God has ordained every purpose in life to start as a baby, to grow into maturity, till it is finally set for exploit. No precious thing begins in its fullness. It starts as a seed and with a persistent pursuit, it explodes into that great thing God destined it to be.

Till my Next Post.
Loads of Hugs and Kisses.
Maxy.

Redefining The Single Woman

Instead of “single & fabulous,” the life of a single woman in her mid 20’s and beyond is all too often labelled “single & desperate.” Instead of being viewed as a choice, “single” seems to denote a lack of options. Everyone seems to want to meddle in the life of the woman who refuses to settle; setting her up on endless dates with guys she has no interest in, calling her “desperate” or “lonely” or “too picky,” or asking: What is wrong with her? I would like to propose that the question we should be asking is: What is right with her? The way I see it, the solitude and bravery and uncertain path of the modern-day single woman is something to be applauded as bold and courageous and unique and not labelled as sad or pathetic or weak. As single women,we have racked up countless hours celebrating the choices of our married counterparts – helping them shop for wedding dresses, stepping into an endless stream of  bridesmaid’s dresses, and elbowing other women out of the way more times than we care to admit to try and catch that elusive bouquet; praying that maybe, just maybe, if we can reach out far enough, we might not just catch the bouquet, but also our own dreams of wearing that white dress to forever.
Times…they are most certainly changing, and with it, a new generation of “The Single Woman” is being raised up to march to the beat of her very own drummer…even if it is only in her underwear around her very own apartment, grooving to Beyonce’s Single Ladies . It’s not that I’m anti-marriage, Wei-yah noted. I just hope that I can express a different idea within the bounds of a tradition.

Love is a beautiful and wonderful and even sacred thing…but until it arrives, shouldn’t we give ourselves permission to THRIVE?  I don’t know about you, but I LIKE being able to spend money on myself without asking anyone’s permission. I LIKE to take myself out on a weekly date and spend time in my own company. And while I’d love to eventually have someone join me on my journey, I refuse to stay grounded if they don’t. So I want to encourage you, my beautiful single ladies, to flip the script on your inner Single Woman and start to see yourselves for the truly brave, empowered, sassy women that you are. In the Single Woman Dictionary, RIP OUT the pages  “Needy” & “Desperate,” because YOU ARE NEITHER.

Till my next Post.

Loads of hugs and kisses.

Maxy.

HOW TO BECOME A SUCCESSFUL BUSINESS WOMAN.

　

I get super excited when i see women doing exploits in business.

Are you an aspiring business woman? Are you just starting a new business? Do you want to become a successful business woman? Then I will advice you read on as I share some practical insights to becoming a successful business woman.

If building a successful business is your goal, then read on.

How to Become a Successful Business Woman (Entrepreneur)

1. Believe in yourself

The fundamental key to success in business is self belief and women are naturally known for underestimating their abilities. To succeed in business, you must believe in yourself. This is very important because no one will believe in you and your product or services if you don’t first believe in yourself. No investor will invest in you if you lack self confidence and your employees will not perform at peak capacity because you lack the spirit to inspire them.

In fact, without self belief; no amount of effort on your business will yield positive results. So boost your self belief today; develop the belief that you have something valuable inside of you that the world wants and it will be so.

2. Have a strong mission

Why do you want to start a business? This question may sound casual but it is a silent factor that determines whether you will succeed or fail as an entrepreneur. Take a look at the world’s most successful women entrepreneurs and you will see that they all have strong reasons for going into business and that reason/reasons became their business mission.

Once again I ask: what is your reason for starting a business? I know I can’t answer this question for you but what I want you to bear in mind is that building a successful business that will stand the test of time begins with the mission.

3. Prepare your mindset

Success in business is highly dependent on the mindset on which that business was started. To become a successful business woman, you must have the right mindset. You must never look at yourself as being a weaker sex. You must have the mindset to deal with whatever comes your way. Success will never be handed to you on a platter of gold just because you are a woman. You must stick your neck out for it.

4. Be willing to fail

The principles of success can never be side stepped regardless of your gender. This means that to become a success, you must be willing to fail. Business is a risk but its reward is worth the risk. So if you are going to be among the few women who make things happen; then you must be willing to accept failure as part of the process of success.

5. Start a business

You can never be a successful business woman by just day dreaming, you need to go out there and start something.

Stop sitting on your ideas; don’t let the lack of resources stop you. Take the leap of faith and start with what you have, you will find the remaining resources you need along the way.

6. Increase your business skills

Some entrepreneurs were born great; others made themselves great through hard work. If a business empire wasn’t handed over to you by your family; then you have to make yours and to achieve that, you will need to develop the required entrepreneurial skills
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Attend seminars, read business books, you will never know the situation you will find yourself tomorrow and the knowledge you acquired may turn out to be a life saver.

7. Understand your business to the core

How well do you understand your business? Are you running a business you are passionate about? Or did you jump into an industry for the money? Regardless of the type of business you are engaged in; make sure you understand the ins and outs of it. Never jump into an industry because of the sweet tales you were told. If things do not go as planned, your enthusiasm may fizzle out and once that happens; your business is as good as dead.

8. Manage your time effectively

One of the major business challenges women entrepreneurs face is time constraint. Women entrepreneurs must attend to their business needs while still raising a family and taking care of their personal needs. I mean it’s quite challenging. If you are ever going to overcome this challenge and become a successful business woman, then you must master the act of delegation.

9. Take care of your customers

I believe women take care of their customers more than their male counterparts. Remember that your customers are the reason you are in business. No woman ever became successful in business without the loyalty of her customers. So never look down on your customers.

10. Stick to the process

Of all the points I made here, starting a business is the most important; sticking to the process is next. Statistics show that 90% of all businesses started fail in their first ten years. The reason is because not all who start a business have the courage to stick to the process. The entrepreneurial process of building a successful business is challenging; you will have to bounce from one challenge to another without losing your enthusiasm. If you can do this, then you will end up a successful business woman.

As a final note, I want to drop a hint that building a successful business or becoming a successful business woman is not an overnight venture; it’s a process that requires dedication. If you can persevere and solve business problems as they arise, you will hit the pot of gold.

Till my next post.

Loads of hugs and kisses

Maxy.

The Empowered Woman

Hi Sugs, its your girl Maxy. The long awaited blog is finally here. I have been super busy and because of that i haven't been able to start blogging like i promised and a lot of people have been asking me when my blog would go live. lol. Here we are now. This blog would be about empowering women. I hope we would all have fun connecting with each other, sharing our experiences, teaching each other and all of that. I look forward to having fun with all of you.



Lots of Hugs and Kisses.

Maxy Loves you.